in·ten·tion·al [in-ten-shuh-nl] adjective 1. done with intention or on purpose; intended. 2. of or pertaining to intention or purpose.
One of my goals this year is to be intentional with my small group guys. Tonight was our first meeting and to say that everything went great would be an understatement. I know all but three of the guys in my group, but I can already tell this is going to be an amazing year. We have already talked about some tough issues, and these guys really get into a good Bible study-discussion time.
Before our time with the students tonight, the high school small group leaders met for an hour training session. This year we have new leaders who literally signed up to be small group leaders two-weeks ago. I introduced myself to one tonight and during our conversation he asked me if I could give him one piece of advice what would that be?
My answer to him was “Be real, and be intentional with your group.” He asked what that meant and I described it this way:
Be real. Don’t try and to be something you’re not, don’t try to act cool, don’t try and impress them, just be yourself. Teenagers can see right through you if you’re not real with them. Quickest way for them to lose respect for you is for you to be “fake” with them.
Be Intentional. Let them know you’re there for them and don’t just say it, mean it! Be a part of their lives not just someone they see for two hours a week at a Bible study. Text them, call them, meet them for lunch, go to one of their games, whatever it takes.
I think one of the most important feelings that we as humans crave is to know that “someone cares” It doesn’t have to be something big, the little things matter too! A random text during the week that you are thinking about them and praying for whatever problem you know they are having goes a long, long way.
If you had to give one piece of advice to a new leader what would it be?