This year, there is one student in my 8th grade group that I’ve had a strong connection with. Part of the draw is that I see a lot of 8th grade Steven in this guy, so I know his personality and what his strengths and struggles are. He has tremendous potential to grow into an amazing young man after God’s own heart. Over this past year, we’ve had a faux-mentoring relationship, but it has never been something we’ve talked about straight out.
Since he’s going to be transitioning out of my small group in a few weeks, I wanted to let him know that I was available to him if he chose to keep this relationship going. Here’s the most important thing I told him:
I think what we’ve started is great and it seems like it has helped you, but YOU need to want to make it happen way more than I do.
This is super important when starting a mentoring relationship:
- First, let the person know that you’re available to them. If I hadn’t told this guy that I was available to him as a resource, he may have never known that I was open to mentoring him.
- Let them be the one to start the process. I told him earlier this week to be thinking about what he wanted our relationship to be. We talked later and decided this would be the best way to move forward.
Being a mentor can (and will) be as beneficial for you as it is for the mentee. Who is someone you can make yourself available to in order to start a mentoring relationship?