Where does Conviction Come From?

Last week I was sitting in Starbucks when someone from our Children’s Ministry staff came in. She was the first person I ever volunteered with at church, so we go back quite a few years. We got to talking about the idea of conviction and how it affects what we do. She had read about conviction earlier that day in a devotional, and she was taking that idea and using it to challenge some of her younger Children’s Ministry volunteers to step up into a stronger role.

Her thoughts about conviction got me thinking a lot about the role it plays in my students. If I look at the guys who seem to have the strongest relationship with God–the ones who really get it–I see a stronger sense of conviction. They’re convicted to read their Bibles more, pray more, do things that are outside their comfort zone to grow in God. So where does this sense of conviction come from in them?

As I’ve looked more into this Christian use of the word “conviction,” I’ve found that it comes partly from the Greek word for “faith.” That would lead me to believe that conviction and faith go hand in hand. You can’t have conviction without first having faith. In those students I was talking about above, they have a faith that is strong and growing. Because of this, they also seem to have a stronger sense of conviction.

I know that’s just one idea that plays into the idea of conviction, so now I turn it to you. In your experience, where does conviction come from? Is it something that can be instilled in someone, or does it have to come about organically through a basis of faith?

The Landing

Steven is gone this week, he’s a cabin leader at Saddleback Church’s Junior High Summer Camp, keep him in your prayers. I’m sure next week you will be reading on this blog about his week. In the mean time you will be hearing a lot of my voice this week.


 This week at Saddleback Church we are hosting a yearly conference for our Celebrate Recovery ministry. Celebrate Recovery is a program developed here at Saddleback by Pastor John Baker. Celebrate Recovery is a biblically based program for overcoming addictions, hurts and hang ups. It has a huge success rate. There are thousands of churches all over the world who use this program and we generally have about 3,500 people attend this conference. It gives me a chance to talk to people from all over the country who have come to Saddleback for this conference.

About two years ago Celebrate Recovery launched a recovery program that is designed for teenagers called, “The Landing”. If your church is not using this program I would encourage you to look into bringing it to your church. I’ve talked with students here at Saddleback who attend our program and most if not all of them have had success with this recovery program when they have failed with others. I think the reason for success in this program is simple; it’s biblically based and brings God into the healing equation.

Programs like The Landing are great for students because they see they are not alone, that there are caring people who have been through struggles of their own and they are there to help them. It also shows them that they are not the only one who struggles with an addiction, a hurt or a hang up of some kind. I think often times teens think no one else is going through or has gone through what they are dealing with.

This is also a great serve opportunity for adults looking to volunteer at their church. It’s your opportunity to use a hurt in your life and help a student avoid the same pit falls.

 

 

C-Group park day

I loved seeing Dillon, another volunteer with the junior high ministry at Saddleback Church, post this quick story about how God worked in him and through him this week. Check out a clip of the post from his blog below, then head over there to see the rest of the post and some pictures from the day.


Today was one of those days where everything was just going wrong, so I went to the park early because I had scheduled my C-Group to meet there. When I got to Concourse I went to my favorite spot; I looked at the handcrafted mountains, trees, hills, and finally stopped, took a breathe, and reminded myself of grace; the undeserved, unmatched gift given to me freely by the Father, through His son Jesus Christ. The amazing grace that allows me to be called His. Instantly grounded, instantly thankful, and instantly satisfied, I sat there amazed by Him. The one who allows me to be in His presence anytime I want; the one who desires a personal intimate relationship with me…

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Why Student Ministry?

As this website grows and we gain more and more followers, I get asked a particular question a lot. This question comes from both my friends who are church attendees and those who are not. The question I get asked is why I picked student ministry as the area I wanted to volunteer and serve. My answer is simple, I didn’t pick student ministry, God picked it for me!

I volunteered in a couple other areas at Saddleback church before I started volunteering with students. I got satisfaction from the other areas that I volunteered, but when I started with our high school team as a volunteer and a small group leader my spiritual life just exploded and I mean that in a good way. I have seen firsthand the effect that a positive role model and mentor can have on teens. I have seen lives changed right before my eyes. It hasn’t been all sunshine and smiles, there have been some sad times along the way as well, but that’s when I realize that Satan does not like what I’m doing and he will do anything to try to de-rail my ministry. I just turn to prayer and to the people close in my life and ask for their support and prayer. God has not failed me yet.

I know that student ministry is not for everyone, just like there are a lot of ministries that are not for me. You need to find how God has shaped you, what he has designed you for and run with it. It’s just like a job that you either love or hate. If you love your job you excel, if you hate it you’re probably just doing the least amount you have to in order to get by. Here are some tips on selecting a ministry; I’m going to do this same exercise with my high school small group so I can get them involved in regularly serving in a ministry:

1.  Pray. Ask God to help you select the right ministry for you.

2.  If you don’t know what ministry area you are suited for, I recommend this book, S.H.A.P.E. by Erik Rees.

2.  Ask your friends and those you trust what they think you might be good at. The reason I got involved in student ministry is because two people thought I would be good at it and they kept after me until I finally caved in and tried it. I will always be grateful to them.

3.  Find someone to do ministry with you. Two are stronger than one; I can’t imagine doing this ministry without Steven. We just “click” in so many areas, I get an idea about something I want to do, and he will take my idea and build on it. By the time he is done, my good idea has gone to a great idea. Pick someone who you trust, someone who will not just tell you what you WANT to hear but what you NEED to hear.

4.  If you try a ministry and don’t like it, or its more like a job than a labor of love, get out! Find something else. You won’t enjoy what you’re doing and God will not get glory from you doing a shoddy job at ministry. Get out, but don’t give up! Try something else. One of the ways we show our love of God is to serve others.

I’d love to hear why you picked student ministry! You can comment here.

Cultural Relevancy and Youth Ministry

I’m not 18 years old anymore…in fact I’m far from it. As a youth ministry leader and volunteer I need to be REAL and not try to be something I’m not. Teens see right through that. I’ve seen some student ministry volunteers try to look and act cool and well, to be honest, you just look like a fool. I want to be an “attraction” to God, not a “distraction” from God. However, you do need to keep up on the current culture trends with teens to be a successful leader. 

Andy Blanks over youthministry360.com has a great blog about this topic. Here’s a tease of the article, you can find the entire blog here.

Lately I’ve listened to a conversation going on in youth ministry circles on whether or not it’s valuable to be versed in youth culture . . . to be “culturally relevant.” I think this conversation is of vital importance to us as youth workers. Give me 4 minutes of your time to share my thoughts (and I welcome yours, as well).

I believe youth workers must strive to be experts in two things: Scripture and culture. Let me explain.

We know the truth of Scripture is timeless. It’s as effective today at spiritual transformation as it was hundreds and thousands of years ago.

However, culture is not timeless. Culture is fluid. It changes with time and geography. You would never attempt to reach a people group in another culture without considering that culture’s unique realities. You wouldn’t travel to rural Chongqing, China and teach the exact same lesson you would teach in Idaho Falls. While the underlying biblical truths have a universal application, the cultural “vehicle” through which your lesson is communicated would be wholly ineffective.

I believe as youth workers we should approach reaching our students with the same level of cultural awareness that we would take in approaching another people group in another culture.

Why? What are the benefits of a commitment to cultural relevancy? Glad you asked.

  • It’s strategic–Knowing youth culture helps you tailor your message in order to deliver Scripture’s un-changing truth in a way that is wrapped in the rhetoric of the society surrounding your students.
  • It Shows You Care–Whenever I travel internationally, I learn some basic conversational phrases in the native language. When I need something and engage someone in their native language (however clumsily), they are much more inclined to help. It shows that I value their culture. Knowing youth culture says the same thing to your students.

 

Follow the (New) Leader

Today we’re beginning a new series called “Follow the (new) Leader.” Our friend John decided to be the leader of a high school small group this year. This is his first leap into student ministry and we decided to follow him on his journey. John is a former SWAT team commander so he should have no problem with a group of 16 freshman (at least, that’s what we’ve told him!). We’ve asked John to answer a series of questions from us each month and then on the last Friday of the month we’ll write a post about what’s going on with John and his students.

 1)  What was your biggest fear so far?

I think my biggest fear so far was that the kids in my group would feel scared or intimidated by me. I seem to have a certain demeanor that exudes a mean exterior when you look at me. Once I spoke to them and they got to know me, I think they will realize that I am an approachable leader who will grow with them in Christ during our time together.

 2)  How are you connecting with your students?

After I gave my biography to them regarding Police work they perked up and got involved with me a little more. They asked the normal questions that all kids ask cops when they meet them and that seemed to break the ice a little. I explained my need for trust in our group regarding things we share and the fact that they are all a part of that trust. They seemed to like that and agreed to not share anything with people outside of  our group. The kids and I share a passion for guns and war games and that will no doubt play a role in our meetings.

 3)  Something you wish you would have done differently?

I don’t think I could have done anything differently, I gave it up to God before I met with my guys and He never let me down. He gave me the words to say that kept the guys interested in what I had to say and they are a great group of kids.

 4)  How have you seen yourself grow?

Since the reality hit me of having 16 more people who will look up to me as their leader, it dawned on me that every little thing I do is being watched by them. They will look for me to guide them and teach them how to be better Christians and better young men. I always try to do the right things and be a good example to all those around me, God has really put the importance of this on my heart the week leading up to my first group meeting. I know that God has put me in these boys lives to prepare them for the real world and to help them grow spiritually. I also know that I am not alone in this endeavor, God is with me every step of the way as well as my friends and co-workers who are always there to help me when I need it.

 5)  A funny story that happened?

As I’m walking the boys to the parking area to get picked up by their parents I told them to stop and listen up. I said that I know I look mean and intimidating and that I may seem that I am angry when in fact I’m merely listening to them intently. I told them that I am very protective of my family and will do whatever it takes to keep them from getting hurt. I help a long pause and then told the boys that they are all now in my family and I would do anything for them. The boys all gave audible sounds of relief and one of them even wiped their brow. You had to be there, but it was funny the way they were hanging on my last sentence as if they were listening to their last rites.

Check back next month and see how things are going with John and his group!

Can You Give Me One Piece Of Advice?

in·ten·tion·al[in-ten-shuh-nl] adjective 1. done with intention or on purpose; intended. 2. of or pertaining to intention or purpose.

One of my goals this year is to be intentional with my small group guys. Tonight was our first meeting and to say that everything went great would be an understatement. I know all but three of the guys in my group, but I can already tell this is going to be an amazing year. We have already talked about some tough issues, and these guys really get into a good Bible study-discussion time.

Before our time with the students tonight, the high school small group leaders met for an hour training session. This year we have new leaders who literally signed up to be small group leaders two-weeks ago. I introduced myself to one tonight and during our conversation he asked me if I could give him one piece of advice what would that be?

My answer to him was “Be real, and be intentional with your group.” He asked what that meant and I described it this way:

Be real. Don’t try and to be something you’re not, don’t try to act cool, don’t try and impress them, just be yourself. Teenagers can see right through you if you’re not real with them. Quickest way for them to lose  respect for you is for you to be “fake” with them.

Be Intentional. Let them know you’re there for them and don’t just say it, mean it! Be a part of their lives not just someone they see for two hours a week at a Bible study. Text them, call them, meet them for lunch, go to one of their games, whatever it takes.

I think one of the most important feelings that we as humans crave is to know that “someone cares” It doesn’t have to be something big, the little things matter too! A random text during the week that you are thinking about them and praying for whatever problem you know they are having goes a long, long way.

If you had to give one piece of advice to a new leader what would it be?

Be Satisfied With What God is Doing

Here’s another great post from Jay Higham. It follows up earlier posts from Steven and I about being able to just let God run your small group, and your life. Here a tease, the whole post can be found here.

Tip: Be satisfied with what God is doing in and through you.

 I have learned a lot about how to manage my time. Some weeks are great. Some weeks are not so great. But the best and most important lesson I learned is that nothing happens that God hasn’t ordained to happen.

Without getting into Theology and Doctrinal positions, I believe that God ordains all that happens. Nothing transpires without His knowledge and approval. It’s that understanding that helps me to recognize that what happens during my week to week happens because God makes it happen. Suddenly, to do lists don’t matter. While they may be an organizing tool, we accomplish what God has ordained for us to accomplish’.

At the end of the day we all hope to experience that feeling of accomplishment. We want to know that we worked hard, completed our tasks, and finished well. But how do we get to that point when there are still “To Do’s” left on our list?

 

What to do when you feel God directing you

As I’ve grown stronger in my faith and in my walk with God, I’ve learned to be able to know when God is leading me somewhere. I felt it when Steven and I came up with the idea of this blog and God continues to bless us in this endeavor. My adult small group meets on Sunday night and after everyone had left one of the guys in the group sent a text to Steven and I with an idea for us putting on a volunteer youth ministry mini training conference.

I read the text and thought, “Wow what a great idea.” The more I sat there thinking about it and later that night praying about it, I felt God was pushing me down this path. When you feel God directing you there are two options you can follow. One is to say, ”Okay God I’m not sure about this, but I am sure about you so I’ll follow.” Sometimes this can be uncomfortable, but that is when God stretches and grows us. The other option is to say, “Oh wow this is bad timing for me God, I’m not sure about this, I think I’ll fail, I don’t want to do this.”  (or twenty other excuses you can come up with)  

Now let me be the first to say that I don’t have all the answers in student ministry, but over the past few years I’m no slouch to dealing with problems and issues and helping students to grow in their relationship with God. Steven and I both have the spiritual gift of teaching and we should use that to help others in this game called student ministry. When I first started out as a volunteer with our high school ministry I would have loved to have some kind of training and discussion with other leaders in a mini conference format.

We’ll continue to keep you updated on the status of this volunteer youth ministry conference we’re putting together and details on how you can attend. I can’t wait to see how God is going to use us in this training conference, but I have a very strong feeling that he is directing us towards this goal.

If this sounds like something you might be interested in, click the “Contact Us” link above, or leave us a comment in the box below.

Love What You Do

I was sitting in a restaurant last night with two friends who are also student ministry volunteers, they were talking about what was going on with the guys in their small groups, the studies they were doing, the special activities they were doing with them, etc. It was so apparent that these two guys have a love of serving and a heart for students. They serve not just because God commands us to serve, to love others as a way of showing our love for Jesus, but because they have a genuine love for students. I look up to these guys, and I want my ministy to be like theirs!

Serving in student ministry is different from other serving opportunities. At Saddleback Church we have literally hundreds of serving opportunities. Some only need a few minutes of your time each week, some an hour during a church service and some, like student ministry, often times require a commitment on your part if you really want to be effective.

Maybe you’re just starting out as a student ministry volunteer, maybe you just give a little of your time and volunteer at a service each week. Pray hard about your commitment and if you feel God moving you to get more involved, take the first step! The change you can bring about in a student’s life and with their commitment to a relationship with God can be life changing for that student. My friends Dennis and Chip have been doing this student ministry volunteer gig for a long time and I can’t even count the number of students they have affected.

Here’s the  secret about Student Ministry…you get just as blessed as the students you are serving! You cannot out give God. The more you pour into your students, the more God will pour into you!

 

Have you checked your commitment level to your ministry? Do you need to give more of yourself and your time? Are you ready? Are you willing?